Dating and having fun
But after making some serious changes in my dating life, I’ve realized that loosening up and taking dating a little In so many words, this is the advice I shared with my friend: When I was young and newly dating, I treated each date as if he were a possible future husband. My insecurities would tumble from my lips, and I imagined them filling the space between us. Rather, I often pushed a date away as I overwhelmed him with my overzealous sharing. Sure, some qualities are important, but lengthy checklists often veer toward the superficial—height, profession, or even neighborhood.
As a result, I dumped a whole lot of information on him that he didn’t necessarily need to know—at least not yet. will share my hopes and dreams and help me carry my burdens, but that will be long after our first date. I’ve known city-dwelling women who won’t consider a man who lives in the suburbs and others who dismiss a man who fails to reach six feet tall.
A recent Chase Freedom Unlimited survey of more than 1,000 people in the U. found that 72 percent of people feel better mentally and 57 percent feel better physically when they have more fun in their daily lives.
Nearly 60 percent feel they are more irritable as a consequence of not having enough fun. That’s a lot of pressure on your hour-long meet and greet!
(Her pre-date trick: Think of three things you’re grateful for.) We might be putting on an unnatural game face without realizing it.
Seppala recalls her British guy friend commenting that he found it odd that American women often texted, “I’m so excited to meet you.” “He was turned off by it because it was inauthentic,” she says.
Whatever the case, it’s a good sign if your date concludes that spending time with you made them feel more positive about their day.
About the Author: Sarah Elizabeth Richards is a journalist and the author of Motherhood, Rescheduled: The New Frontier of Egg Freezing and the Women Who Tried It.
They make you feel good, and those are the kinds of people we want to spend time around,” says Seppala. “You don’t want to have fake enthusiasm,” says Seppala.
He’s probably grounded, financially stable, and would love the opportunity to cook with you in his giant suburban kitchen.
Aside from some core nonnegotiables, take a few risks and watch your dating life expand.
“But if you’re in a positive state of mind, you’ll connect easier.
When we’re stressed or negative, we’re self-focused and it’s harder to focus on other people.” That means no complaining, criticizing others or bringing up downer topics.